When a child comes into this world, the first faces he sees are of his parents. To a child, that is the most beautiful face in the world and immediately, a very sacred bond is formed between the child and the parents. As the child grows into a toddler, that magical bond only deepens. The child begins to depend more and more on his parents. He hangs on to their every word and relies on them to make even the smallest of decisions for him. From what food to eat to what clothes to wear, everything is decided by his parents. For the little kid, his entire world revolves around his parents and in that little world, his parents are his superheroes. He loves and adores them.
Why do we fight with our parents?
But why, as the child grows up, do those same people whom he loves so much begin to annoy and irritate him? Why, as the kid becomes a teenager, do the decisions taken by the same parents become a burden to him? Why does that same kid get frustrated when his superheroes intervene in his life to save him from the bad side of life?
As the child steps into his teenage years, the once loved opinions and decisions of his parents are no longer welcome in his life. The child wants to live life on his own terms and compelled by their old habit, the parents keep on trying to take decisions for him. Thus, this clash of opinions leads to the arguments between the parents and the child.
Letting go of control:
These tiny quarrels and fights occur in every house. This occurrence is due to the fact that children are now growing up, which causes them to want to be able to make their own choices. The children want to become independent and want to take their own decisions. They no longer depend on their parents. But as they have been doing it for so long, the parents face difficulties while passing these small rights to their children. Thus, the child and his parents both face changes in their lives and this leads to arguments between them.
Compromise and Adjust
The only way to stop these arguments is by means of compromising and adjusting.
Only if both parties, parents and children, both are willing to cooperate, these difficult situations can be avoided. The parents can learn to try and understand the child's view of things and the child can learn to appreciate his parent's help where required also to take his parent's permission when he wants to do things differently than they want. Giving this effort would ensure a better bond between parents and children when they are growing up.
No yelling! No aggression! Explain!
Yes, parents will find it very difficult to deal with such drastic changes. Giving up control of things is not very easy but if they try, their reward will be an improved relationship with their children.
As for the children, instead of fighting or yelling at their parents for getting their way, they can simply try to explain their wishes to their parents. Instead of becoming aggressive, children can stay calm and talk to their parents. In this way, the arguments will be avoided and they will have a fairly better chance of getting their way without hurting their parents.
Talk and try to understand each other
Arguments and quarrels occur between every child and his parents, but these should not be severe enough to hamper the beautiful bond they have. Talking calmly and trying to understand each others feelings and opinions enables parents and their children to build a healthy and strong relationship.